“They don’t know that we know that they know.” – Phoebe
I was watching re-runs of the famous F.R.I.E.N.D.S series, It always gets the giggles out of me, It’s my refuge when the days are long and gloomy. Phoebe was right.. they don’t know that we know that they know.. friendship is something like this. Confusing at times and enjoyable the next.
Over the years, I have realised a few truths about friends:
“Idiosyncrasies” we all have them, and tolerating them amongst friends is what makes it tick and work. It has taken me a long time to actually come to terms that no second person is going to be exactly like me. Everyone has their stupid annoying habits , but that’s what makes them different and interesting. I have a diverse circle of friends, different cultural and religious backgrounds, They have certain food choices, fashion choices and have different personality types. And we all have to get along, I need to deal with it .. laugh, joke and get on with it.
Funny like everything else, friendship too comes with an expiry date. Enjoy till it lasts and when it’s over or getting to point where it’s not having any positive influence .. move on!!!
I have always held on to friends tightly, and when that friendship ended whether due to lack of care or just amicably or distance, it has always hurt like hell. I have learnt over the years that friendships don’t last forever . Work, life and different aspirations come in the way, life happens! and unfortunately it takes a toll on years of friendship.
Laughing together as friends is so important. It’s great when one can be absolute at ease and be their foolish clumsy selves. No one to judge.. and after all the craziness just giggle at the foolishness.
Keep away from the fakes!
If you have a opinion say to my face, thats what I liked about you in the first place. True friends tell you the truth, if my butt looks bigger in that dress , tell me – don’t bitch behind my back. its my pet peeve, fakers. Remember the friends that tell you things that you don’t want to hear are the true keepers.
Make friends that make you happy, who have a positive influence and make you feel wanted.
One million memories, ten thousand inside jokes, one hundred shared secrets,
One reason: best friends.